i read recently an article by lolaloot about why telling someone don’t settle in a relationship might just be the worst thing we could say to them.
here's a recap from the article:
Trapped in a perpetual fear of ending up with a boring other half,
many have lost sight of what’s truly important in a long-term
No, it’s not the spark. No, it’s not the butterflies in the stomach.
And no, it’s not mind-blowing sex. Those things are fleeting and they
will disappear eventually.
What’s important in a relationship is unconditional trust.
Reliability. Mutual understanding. Strength. Yeap, the boring old stuff.
It is about knowing that your other half will walk the dog while you
are nursing a cold in bed. It’s about knowing your significant other
will collect the kids from school while you’re caught up at work. It’s
about knowing your other half will drive for hundreds of miles to get
you when your car has broken down in the middle of nowhere. It’s about
him or her wanting to listen to you rant about work eventhough they have
no idea what you’re going on about.
It’s about seeing your partner’s reassuring smile from across the
room when you’re both socialising at an unfamiliar event. It’s about
seeing your partner’s face lighting up when you’ve done something nice
for him or her, regardless of how small or insignificant the act seems
It’s about acceptance and it’s about not judging. It’s about being
with someone who’s willing to make a commitment in making it work – by
talking it out, acting it out or simply being there.
So, instead of telling someone who’s having a bit of a slow day in
their relationship, “don’t settle”, tell them to remember all the boring
stuff instead. All the boring, pragmatic stuff that their other halves
are good for.
Because if they’re good enough people to do those boring stuff for
you, they sure are good enough people for you to love them back.
Read more here: http://www.lolaloot.com/telling-someone-dont-settle-in-a-relationship-might-just-be-the-worst-thing-we-could-say-to-them/
article yg sgt win!!!
currently listening to:shane ward - no promises
i wanna be a supermodel